Style Dilemma – Wedding Outfit

Update – see “Can I wear trousers to a wedding?” – revisited

This week I received an email with a style dilemma which is all too familiar.

The reader says “This summer I’ll be attending two weddings in June/July with the same family group. I want to be able to wear something a bit different to each (it would be a shame for all their photos to look the same!), but it seems daft (not to say rather flash) to buy two completely different outfits, particularly if they are dresses, which I just don’t wear most of the time. I’m a trousers girl. Talking of which, can I wear trousers to a wedding? The last one I attended I wore a dress. Lovely as it is, it hasn’t been out of the cupboard since! I think what I need is something smart that I can dress down into “smart-casual” because that is my usual state of dress.”

It’s all too common to rush out and buy an outfit that’s “wedding” which as my reader says never comes out of the wardrobe again. Something most of us just can’t afford to do. My suggestion to this dilemma is to go with trousers but to make sure they are wedding appropriate try a wide leg silk which can be worn again for evenings, on holiday or dressed down during the day. My second choice is an on trend tuxedo style suit in cream. The jacket and trousers can be worn again separately both throughout the summer and at Christmas. Check with the bride first though in case she’s going for a non traditional outfit and has decided to wear a cream suit!

Option 1:

what to wear to a wedding

For the first of the two weddings I’ve chosen a gorgeous pair of silk wide leg trousers and paired them with jacquard jacket and one of this summers big colours salmon. The jacket and fascinator elevate the trousers to wedding appropriate.

For the second of the weddings I’ve paired the trousers with silver and apple green, this time with high heels.

The final outfit shows the trousers worn casually with a knit, stripe top and the flat shoes.

Below I’ve shown the two jackets used for work with a pencil skirt and smart casual with jeans. So if you did choose to buy two jackets both would earn their place in a capsule wardrobe, as would the camisole tops and shoes.

capsule wardrobe pieces

Options 2:

what to wear to a wedding

This option is built around a tuxedo style suit, something that was on the winter and summer catwalks and will be useful throughout the summer and the Christmas party season. For the first wedding I’ve paired it with navy and gold and for the second wedding I’ve added mocha. What’s clever about this one is that the suit will go with any accent colour you choose, this is the great benefit of choosing a suit in a neutral colour. You could add one of this season’s brights like turquoise, coral, pink or red. The options are endless. Afterwards wear the trousers out for dinner with a pair of heels or the new slipper style flat, mix the jacket with a pencil skirt or even jeans and heels.

So my answer is – yes you can wear trousers, it makes so much sense to buy something that earns it’s cost per wear in your wardrobe and is so much more stylish than a “matchy, matchy” dress/jacket combination with shoes, handbag and hat all in the same colour.

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Where to buy:

Grey wide leg silk trousers, Jacquard jacket, salmon silk shell top and silver silk cowl neck top all from Pure Collection.
All fascinators by Phase Eight, Salmon shoes, Salmon bag and Silver shoes all from LK Bennett. Silver clutch by DVF at my-wardrobe.com
Green Jacket by Jaegar, Silver linen cardigan by Sandwich, Stripe top by Kin and Grey shoulder bag by Mimi all from John Lewis.
Caramel jeans by Mint Velvet, White crop jeans by Gerard Darel and Pencil skirt by Hobbs all by John Lewis.
Tuxedo style jacket, Trousers, Navy lace top and Cream lace top all by Coast at John Lewis.
Gold sandals by L.K. Bennett and Gold bag by Dune at John Lewis
Mocha weave bag, Mocha weave shoe and Bolero all by Phase Eight.